GRAINS & BREADS

Well, it has been a hot minute since I have updated my blog. Anyways, by posting this post it will help hold me accountable for my goals. My goal is to give up grains and breads...after I finish the pizza in my fridge. I am going to try to stop eating breads, pastas, rices, and grains that have been over processed. I am headed to LA at the end of April, and I am hoping that I will be able to shop and shop some more!

This blog is going to transform into my fitness journal/whatever else I want it to be.

The Rules of Text Messaging

I have always wondered what is proper when it comes to text messaging. More importantly, if someone texts you during the night, while you are sleeping, are you suppose to respond in the morning? Isn't it too late? What if it is during the week, and not on Friday or Saturday night?Should you respond?

Lastly, someone number I did not know texted me today about how they were just leaving Dallas and needed those 4 hours of sleep. I responded, "Who is this?" I knew they had the wrong number -- was I suppose to leave them hanging?

To get a master's?

I have been thinking more and more about going back to get my master's degree. I still do not know what I want to do with my life, but there is no better time than the present to get it. I am not in a committed relationship. I do not have to worry about anyone or anything besides myself.

I keep debating what to get it in. What am I truly passionate about? What is going to be the best return on investment? Who knows?

Should I quit my job and focus solely on the master's, or should I just take night classes?

Someone, anyone give me the answers!!

Holiday Season

The Holiday Season is about giving. So why do we make lists of what we want? Should we start making lists of what we want to give? If you made a list of what you want to give, what would it look like? Should giving be focused around material items? Or can we give hope, love and inspiration?

This is just my thought of the day.

Growing Up & The People Who Teach Us Life's Lessons

I truly believe that children need to be apart of some competitive team growing up. Personally, by being on different teams, whether it was Odyssey of the Mind in elementary school or sports team throughout school, there was potential to learn many different lessons. And I learned my lessons. And, often times it was the coaches who provided these lessons.

"Be a team." "Pass the ball to the open person, don't be selfish." "You will have to work together to get your desired results." "Don't be late, or you are running laps."

By participating in teams at such a young age, and learning how to interact with people who are different from you is a challenge. However, for the rest of your life you are going to be challenged  by a team. In school, you are put into groups for projects. In work, you work within a group or department to get things done. Your coach becomes your teacher, and your boss by instructing you on what to do. Basically, the team culture is all around. It is the way we operate businesses.

But who are these people who are teaching us our life lessons at a young age? Who are these people who are telling us how to act, how to be? Who are these people who are teaching us work ethic? Often times, children will admire their coaches. Their coaches can do no wrong.

Over the course of my experiences with coaches, I have come to find that coaches do indeed do wrong. They are not doing wrong in the gym, but in their personal lives. They strive to teach us how to be, how to act, and how to live, yet they seem to have not figured it out yet. It is devastating to know that people you spend so much time with, and look up to are scumbags. People who told you not to steal, go and steal. People who tell you that you need to trust one another, go and break that trust.

I am not really sure where I was going with this blog post....so I will have to finish it later.

The Help...

I just finished reading this fascinating book. Yes, I might be behind. But I have been busy! Anyways, this book by Kathryn Stockett is a must-read. Personally, I love these stories. My parents grew up in the south. My dad, more specifically, was alive during all of this. He grew up in a southern country club. I am positive his mother's friends had this type of help, although my dad has never mentioned it.

This book, along with a course I took in college, had me questioning my parents. I asked them why they never spoke of this time. They struggled to answer me. They replied they were young. My dad was 10 when Brown V. Board was passed. At 10 years old, you begin to remember things. Where you were when certain things happened, and what you were doing.

The sociological aspect of race, and gender fascinate me. People are socialized to believe certain things about them and the world. Why does a little girl have to have a pink bib? Why does the white girl have to have a white doll? I still don't get it. For as far as we are forward in many aspects, the world is still so far behind on others.

Phone Interviews? Good or bad?

On Friday, I participated in my first phone interview. I get extremely nervous for interviews in general, and in particular, I was terrified for this one. I was interviewing for a sales internship in Denver. I assumed the other potential candidates had in-person interviews. Am I disadvantaged? I believe so.  The interview process is about showing your personality through body language, handshakes and appearance. I couldn't read their body language, and they couldn't read mine. What if it was negative? 


I already have a slightly high voice, and I know it gets higher when making 'professional' calls. Why is this? I have no idea. Why do I have to have different voices? My professor told me to write "slow and low" on the mirror. Did this help? I certainly hope so. 


Overall, I am terrible at the whole interviewing process. How can someone judge my potential based on a conversation and a piece of paper? Shouldn't we have a two-week trial period where I can show them my hard work, and abilities? After two weeks, if I haven't impressed them, then dismiss me. Don't dismiss me based on questions that are potentially irrelevant to anything I am going to do. 

I Hate It When...

Be curious, not judgmental. - Walt Whitman

College is a refuge from hasty judgment. - Robert Frost

People say they aren’t judgmental. I’m not sure about you, but I know that my first impression of someone is based strictly on judgment. I see everyone doing it to. (At least I think so). They size a person up. Head to toe. Why do people tell you to dress up for interviews? Well the interviewee is judging you. If you look like crap, they are going to think your work is crap...or something like that. Why did my mother always tell me to look decent when leaving the house? Well I still haven’t changed, but you never know whom you are going to meet. I guess maybe I should stop wearing hoodies, and sweats out. I could potentially bump into Mr. Right the next time I run a quick errand to Dillions. (However, I highly doubt that, I mean I have been in Lawrence for 3.5 years and all I ever see are townies at the grocery store. I swear).

Maybe you are quote un-quote non-judgmental but seriously- subconsciously whether you want to admit it or not – you are making first impressions. And first impressions = judgment.

However, once you get to know someone - I think it is best to try your best to not judge someone else's lifestyle. (I'm not saying I am perfect when it comes to this). Everyone is going to live their life the way they want to live it. So, I am going to continue living mine the way I want to, as you should too. If you are happy that is all that truly matters.

So basically, everyone is judgmental, but I guess you should try really hard not be. And if you find a way to avoid all judgments, please let me know.